I’ve been a spiritual person all my life: Why am I still stuck?

“I’m spiritual, I try to be a good person, I try to have positive thoughts, and embody all that is virtuous….I do yoga, I meditate, I eat healthfully, I’m kind to others……Why am I still unhappy? Why can’t I find a relationship that works? why do I feel stuck? I’ve tried lots of different therapies,Continue reading “I’ve been a spiritual person all my life: Why am I still stuck?”

Ghosts in The Nursery: How the Past Affects the Present

The title of the 1975 paper “Ghosts in the Nursery” by Fraiberg, Adelson and Shapiro haunted me as I became a mother. Why should I be haunted?  I’m a therapist, I know the past affects the present.  Yet, how chilling….to vividly imagine that some nurseries are riddled with quite very many ghosts.  The ghosts thatContinue reading “Ghosts in The Nursery: How the Past Affects the Present”

What to talk about in therapy?

Some clients come in confused about what to talk about in therapy. They want to be helped, but genuinely don’t know what they should be bringing to their session. Some people come with the idea that the therapist will ask the questions that will stir the material. That is sometimes the case, especially in theContinue reading “What to talk about in therapy?”

How Does Therapy Work?

Many theorists have written about what we call “the curative factors” in therapy.    There are many opinions and varied techniques for helping people achieve their goals in therapy. Here are only a few of the main curative factors. INSIGHT.  Many people pursue therapy in order to gain insight into their psychological dilemmas.  With aContinue reading “How Does Therapy Work?”

“MY WHOLE HOUSE IS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!” vs “MY WHOLE APARTMENT IS CRAP!!!!!”

FOR A LAUGH, AND SOME FUN, WATCH THE FOLLOWING VIDEOS IN THIS ORDER: WHAT HAPPENED?? FROM OMNIPOTENCE TO DEGRADATION, FROM DELIGHT TO DISGUST, musings by Dr. Anat I don’t have a particular message or idea that I want to convey in reference to these two videos. I just knew that both of those videos, viewedContinue reading ““MY WHOLE HOUSE IS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!” vs “MY WHOLE APARTMENT IS CRAP!!!!!””

Anorexia: My friends tell me I have an eating disorder but I don’t think so…..

Dear Reader, If the above title resonates with you, then you’ve come to the right place.  It is difficult to be in the position of being confronted by friends and family about your eating and weight.  It can bring up many contradictory feelings.  On the one hand, you feel that others care about you andContinue reading “Anorexia: My friends tell me I have an eating disorder but I don’t think so…..”