I’ve been a spiritual person all my life: Why am I still stuck?

“I’m spiritual, I try to be a good person, I try to have positive thoughts, and embody all that is virtuous….I do yoga, I meditate, I eat healthfully, I’m kind to others……Why am I still unhappy? Why can’t I find a relationship that works? why do I feel stuck? I’ve tried lots of different therapies,Continue reading “I’ve been a spiritual person all my life: Why am I still stuck?”

Ghosts in The Nursery: How the Past Affects the Present

The title of the 1975 paper “Ghosts in the Nursery” by Fraiberg, Adelson and Shapiro haunted me as I became a mother. Why should I be haunted?  I’m a therapist, I know the past affects the present.  Yet, how chilling….to vividly imagine that some nurseries are riddled with quite very many ghosts.  The ghosts thatContinue reading “Ghosts in The Nursery: How the Past Affects the Present”

What to talk about in therapy?

Some clients come in confused about what to talk about in therapy. They want to be helped, but genuinely don’t know what they should be bringing to their session. Some people come with the idea that the therapist will ask the questions that will stir the material. That is sometimes the case, especially in theContinue reading “What to talk about in therapy?”

How Does Therapy Work?

Many theorists have written about what we call “the curative factors” in therapy.    There are many opinions and varied techniques for helping people achieve their goals in therapy. Here are only a few of the main curative factors. INSIGHT.  Many people pursue therapy in order to gain insight into their psychological dilemmas.  With aContinue reading “How Does Therapy Work?”

Perchance to Dream?

Dreamers at the Rubin Museum of Art On Saturday I had the honor of participating in the Rubin Museum’s (http://www.rmanyc.org/) special event, THE DREAM OVER. This event was featured as part of a month long series, entitled BRAIN WAVES, which includes lectures and events that explore the science and art of dreams. For the DREAMContinue reading “Perchance to Dream?”