5 Tips on how to talk to your daughter about her body?

Recently, I came across a compelling,  well written, and well-intended blog post advising  people NOT to talk to their daughters about their bodies, except to teach them how it works, (like this one).  It was not the first one of it’s kind- the notion that commenting on a young girl’s looks is detrimental to herContinue reading “5 Tips on how to talk to your daughter about her body?”

I’ve been a spiritual person all my life: Why am I still stuck?

“I’m spiritual, I try to be a good person, I try to have positive thoughts, and embody all that is virtuous….I do yoga, I meditate, I eat healthfully, I’m kind to others……Why am I still unhappy? Why can’t I find a relationship that works? why do I feel stuck? I’ve tried lots of different therapies,Continue reading “I’ve been a spiritual person all my life: Why am I still stuck?”

Ghosts in The Nursery: How the Past Affects the Present

The title of the 1975 paper “Ghosts in the Nursery” by Fraiberg, Adelson and Shapiro haunted me as I became a mother. Why should I be haunted?  I’m a therapist, I know the past affects the present.  Yet, how chilling….to vividly imagine that some nurseries are riddled with quite very many ghosts.  The ghosts thatContinue reading “Ghosts in The Nursery: How the Past Affects the Present”

What to talk about in therapy?

Some clients come in confused about what to talk about in therapy. They want to be helped, but genuinely don’t know what they should be bringing to their session. Some people come with the idea that the therapist will ask the questions that will stir the material. That is sometimes the case, especially in theContinue reading “What to talk about in therapy?”

How Does Therapy Work?

Many theorists have written about what we call “the curative factors” in therapy.    There are many opinions and varied techniques for helping people achieve their goals in therapy. Here are only a few of the main curative factors. INSIGHT.  Many people pursue therapy in order to gain insight into their psychological dilemmas.  With aContinue reading “How Does Therapy Work?”

The Psychology of Breastfeeding: Why breastfeeding is not for everyone

In the wake of the Time magazine article on attachment parenting, and its provocative cover of a woman breastfeeding her four-year-old, I wanted to share a few thoughts on breastfeeding from a psychological perspective. Breastfeeding is one of the most natural and beautiful exchanges that occur between two human beings, mother and child.  There isContinue reading “The Psychology of Breastfeeding: Why breastfeeding is not for everyone”

“MY WHOLE HOUSE IS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!” vs “MY WHOLE APARTMENT IS CRAP!!!!!”

FOR A LAUGH, AND SOME FUN, WATCH THE FOLLOWING VIDEOS IN THIS ORDER: WHAT HAPPENED?? FROM OMNIPOTENCE TO DEGRADATION, FROM DELIGHT TO DISGUST, musings by Dr. Anat I don’t have a particular message or idea that I want to convey in reference to these two videos. I just knew that both of those videos, viewedContinue reading ““MY WHOLE HOUSE IS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!” vs “MY WHOLE APARTMENT IS CRAP!!!!!””

Perchance to Dream?

Dreamers at the Rubin Museum of Art On Saturday I had the honor of participating in the Rubin Museum’s (http://www.rmanyc.org/) special event, THE DREAM OVER. This event was featured as part of a month long series, entitled BRAIN WAVES, which includes lectures and events that explore the science and art of dreams. For the DREAMContinue reading “Perchance to Dream?”

National Eating Disorder Awareness Week

National Eating Disorder Awareness Week As a clinician who works with eating disorders, on the occasion of national eating disorders week,  my heart goes out to the many patients and their families who are struggling with an eating disorder.   For the general public’s behalf, I’d like to point your attention to the following PromoContinue reading “National Eating Disorder Awareness Week”